Who wouldn’t love being happy though?
One of the things I enjoy most about my career is working with people from all different aspects of life; young and old, shop assistants to CEO’s, the seasoned athlete looking for an extra push to the first time gym goer looking to lose 50kg of body fat. Working with such diversity has opened my eyes dramatically to how we all vary in our own unique ways, but it also sheds light on the one thing we all truly crave, to be genuinely and sincerely happy.
This is the part where it really becomes interesting…
There are two main paradigms in which people generally fall when it comes to train of thought and how we find our happiness. They are forms of personal psychology; internal locus of control and external locus of control.
“Individuals with a strong internal locus of control believe events in their life derive primarily from their own actions: for example, when receiving exam results, people with an internal locus of control tend to praise or blame themselves and their abilities. People with a strong external locus of control tend to praise or blame external factors such as the teacher or the exam”
Understanding first the side you predominantly lie is vital to making change, we all of course want to pick the more favourable side and say we take responsibility for our own actions but it may not always be the case.The words we speak each day and what we anchor or success to dictates our day to day actions and in the end controls how we measure our level of success/happiness.
Why am I writing about this and how does it relate to training and health?
Working in the health and fitness industry for over 6 years, I have built a business on meeting objectives, sitting down with clients and setting SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound) goals that in most cases have had the focus of (mainly) one thing; the result, not the journey.
Now I understand that my job is that of helping people achieve a specific level of; fitness, body fat or strength that they desire, but anchoring your happiness to an outcome can become a very dangerous game.
If we link our happiness to only our outcomes and not the process we will be forever chasing things just out of reach. The best way to describe it is like chasing a rainbow; it may forever elude our grasp, but if we take the time to slow down and appreciate the beauty of chase and all that we learn along the journey, no matter the outcome, we still win.
“It’s not when something happens I will be happy, it’s when I’m happy things will happen”.
Taking the first step to wanting to improve your body, health, fitness and wellbeing is a big one and shouldn’t be taken lightly. But it is a journey we all should embark on!
It is a journey that should have happiness woven into the fabric and worn every day. It’s about making changes that will help you become the best version of you and how you chose to define that is entirely up to you. The steps still need to be calculated to meet a certain body fat percentage, but shouldn’t be thrown off path by one bad meal or by one bad scale reading. The steps need to be your own and no matter how staggered, as long as there are continuous and in the right direction you will reach your destination and be happy along the way.
We all have addictions to our limitations, the beliefs that we can’t do something because of xyz, those limitations comfort us and prevent us from any chance of progression.
You need to break the addiction of limiting beliefs, each step (no matter how small) out of your self-proclaimed limits will empower you towards a better future.
But if you continue to buy into an external locus of control, then you can be assured your future will never be in your control nor will your happiness.
You will fluctuate between happy one day when the cards fall in your favour and down and upset when they don’t, life will become a rollercoaster of emotions and unpredictability.
Each day is a chance to change how you speak, act and how your future will look. The limits aren’t in the sky, the limits are in your mind. Break the barriers that hold you back from being happy each day and you will be surprised how quickly your world will change.
Above all else you have to be happy, we only get one shot at life and don’t live it regretting the things you missed out on.
Set a goal, work on it, but take the time each day to stop and smell the roses.
I hope you have an amazing Christmas and New Years
Stay healthy, Stay happy.Share